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Why Being Yourself Attracts the Right People
There’s a struggle in society today.
People don’t act like themselves. They attempt to impersonate a personality that isn’t theirs.
We’ve all been here. To fit in, you need to change who you are. You need to act differently— like somebody else.
My Middle and High School Years
In middle and high school, I was somebody else.
I always felt like I needed to fit in.
Looking back on those years, I felt that way because I didn’t have a group of friends I could be myself around. I needed to adopt a different personality to fit in with certain groups.
In 2025, I look back on this friend group as more like acquaintances. They were placeholder friends.
The odd person out: that’s who I was.
We all know someone who was/is this person, or maybe we experienced it firsthand.
For six years, that was me.
I was the kid in the friend group who wouldn’t get invited to sleepovers while everyone else did. I was the kid at the lunch table who didn’t get spoken to because I wasn’t a priority.
Those were difficult days for me.
